Friday, November 11, 2016

perhaps the funniest (but still accurate) quote I've read about the election....

TBS' "Full Frontal with Samantha Bee" opened with Bee asking how everyone was doing before trying to figure how everything went "spectacularly wrong."
"What we did was the democratic equivalent of installing an above-ground pool," Bee said. "Even if we're lucky and it doesn't seep into our foundations, the neighbors will never look at us the same way again."
(with my apologies to you if you have an above-ground pool...)

Thursday, November 10, 2016


The sun definitely still rises every single day, no matter what's happened the day (or two) before.

Today I am heartened by several things:

1) the blog comments and emails in response to my post yesterday that I've received from a number of you (thank you!);
2) the messages of solidarity that I've received from friends of other nationalities from all over the world (thank you!);
3) the fact that Secretary Clinton won the popular vote so I (and friends of the same mindset) are not in the minority after all;
4) the encouragement and motivation and "filling up" I feel from being a member of and reading the posts by the not-so-secret Pantsuit Nation.

We are not alone in our hopes and dreams and desires for our country.  We've got to stay focused on making it better for our children and our communities.  Drown out the background noise of the naysaying and move forward.

I don't know if you watched Secretary Clinton's concession speech yesterday, but if you missed it, you should hightail it right to the Internet and watch it again and again.  Even if you're a Trump supporter.  Especially if you're a Trump supporter.  It was the best, most heartfelt speech of her life, despite, I'm sure, being the most difficult to deliver.  She is such a class act and really showed her class, grit, and grace yesterday.  I was inspired.

I'll close with some of my favorite quotes from the speech:

"Please never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it. It is, it is worth it."

"And to all the little girls who are watching this, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams."

"For now our responsibility as citizens is to keep doing our part to build that better, stronger, fairer America we seek, and I know you will."

"Finally I am so grateful for our country and for all it has given to me. I count my blessings every single day that I am an American. And I still believe as deeply as I ever have that if we stand together and work together with respect for our differences, strength in our convictions, and love for this nation, our best days are still ahead of us."

"Let us have faith in each other, let us not grow weary, let us not lose heart, for there are more seasons to come.  And there is more work to do."  

Wednesday, November 9, 2016

the election

I went to run at the beach this morning to try and clear my head after seeing the results of the Presidential election.  After the run, I sat for a while and listened to the waves rolling in.

Unfortunately, it was a very low tide and the waves weren’t crashing loudly enough to block out what sounded strangely like cries of hatred, bigotry, racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia, and misogyny coming all the way down the Atlantic Ocean from the United States to Brazil.

I get that many Americans wanted change, that they wanted fresh blood in the White House, that they wanted a Washington outsider, that they wanted the quality of life back that they think has been stolen by Washington insiders and immigrants.

I got it.

I hope everybody’s clear about who “we” have chosen in the name of having an outsider (and possibly in the name of having a non-female) in the White House.  “We” have chosen someone to be the PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA who has insulted every single sector of the American population other than old, white men.  Who has used language so foul, base and vulgar that were my child to speak like that, he would be punished for the remainder of the days he lived under my roof.  Who has shown no grasp of or concrete plans for foreign or domestic policy.  Who has considered himself smart for not paying taxes for years while the rest of us middle classers got stuck with the hefty tax bills year after year.  Who has threatened to build walls, deport people, end free trade agreements, and end the US’s participation in NATO.  Who has cozied up to foreign leaders who are completely at odds with US foreign policy.  Who has acted like a petulant child in debates with his constant interruptions and one-liner jabs.  Who has mocked disabled people, threatened the press, and is accused of sexually assaulting women.  Who has used a Twitter account in the middle of the night to bully people he doesn’t like.  Who has shown time and time again his immorality, arrogance, ignorance, and poor temperament.

That is our President-Elect. 

Well done, America.  Well done.  (Insert slow clap here.)

I am saddened and embarrassed and overwhelmed with grief for the United States of America.  I know we’re better than this, but boy, does this cut deep today.  I wish you’d heard me trying to explain to my distraught 13 year-old son this morning how this could happen.  How do "we" elect someone whose behavior is exactly how we teach our children not to act?  It's a tough sell, but we have to march on in the face of this incredible decision, if only out of respect for the office and title of President and Commander in Chief.

Now we all live with this decision for the next four years.  I hope and pray that our new President surrounds himself with really intelligent, capable, thoughtful, slow-trigger advisors and Cabinet members.  I will continue to pray for our already-great nation and its leaders.  I will pray that there is still a great United States of America for my son to recognize in four years.  I will pray that the checks and balances created by our Constitution will actually work to prevent insanity by a President whose party also controls the Senate, the House and will have great sway over the Supreme Court. 

In the meantime, we are going to double down on our family values and make sure there’s no room for hatred, bigotry, racism, sexism, homophobia, xenophobia, and misogyny in our lives.  We will make sure we surround ourselves with compassionate, civil, inclusive people who share these same values.  I can demand nothing less for my precious child. 

To quote Secretary of State Hillary Clinton, "America is great because America is good".  I intend to make sure that we purposefully and intentionally live our lives modeling that good to the rest of the world, no matter what comes out of DC.